Disclaimer: These are my most inner thoughts laid out for the world to see. No edit, no scripts, no plastic, no gloss, no strings attached. Truth in rare form. Enjoy!

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Can Men and Women be JUST Friends?

Steve Harvey believes men and women CAN NOT be just friends. Hill Harper believes men and women CAN be just friends. They are both educated black men with different opinions based on their own life experiences. But, the question still remains.

According to Dictionary.com, the definition of friend is "a person attached to another by feelings of affection or personal regard." Let's focus on "feelings of affection." In what context are they referring to in "affection" and what are you "feeling" when it comes between friends of the opposite sex? Such a touchy subject amongst men and women of today's society. When you turn on the television and see movies such as Brown Sugar, you just have to wonder can Men and women really be JUST friends. 
Written in Psychology Today "The belief that men and women can't be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace, and the only way they could get together was for romance [...] Now they work together and share sports interests and socialize together." They go on and say that although it may be tricky, men and women today can be close friends.
Friends are those whom our faults are safe -G.K. Chesterton

My Opinion, it is my Blog right? 
You have to ask yourself, "What is a solid friendship?" "What is a genuine friendship." Yes I do believe opposites attract. I do believe that love is a friendship set on fire. Love can catch anyone by surprise, when you least expect it. Love defies all rules in any book you can possibly imagine. Love is tricky, but I believe Love exposes the meaning of friendship; an opportunity to meet someone that you get to know from ground zero without wearing a facade. To me, friendship is a choice. I believe men and women CAN be just friends DEPENDING on their mindset and their maturity level. Those are VERY important pieces to the puzzle that I believe people overlook. This topic can be debated over forever. What do YOU believe? 

Monday, January 24, 2011

Black Love is POWER

A man has only one escape from his old self: to see a different self in the mirror of some woman's eyes. -Clare Boothe Luce

Every black woman wants that "Love & Basketball" or that "Love Jones" type of Love. We want to overcome obstacles in relationships like the movies "The Best Man" or "Why Did I Get Married." But is this Black Love really attainable? I mean, it is only the movies, right? All black man cheat, right? Interracial dating is at a high, right? Black women are just gold diggers, right? Black men in executive positions prefer white women because it is a better look, right? Oh.... my eyes are rolling. My temperature is rising. Oh the LIES!

Yes, this is the point where I lose my mind and go off on a rant. Everyone has their own preference on who they date, but Black Love to me is POWER, is LOVE, is just what will keep our community ALIVE and THRIVING. Black Love should NOT be some mythical fairytale we all aspire to meet, but rather the practical application of love in our lives. Oh the Beauty of Black Love! It gets no better than this.

How do YOU define "Black Love?"

Top 3 Black Love Power Couples:

#3: Will & Jada

#2- Jay Z & Beyonce

#1- President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.” -Dr. Maya Angelou

Sunday, January 23, 2011


This is the very first post! So many people inquire about advice from me or just simply love my thoughts I put on twitter/FB so I have decided to create this blog for your viewing pleasure. I will go over different thoughts and topics that I feel are experienced by my fellow young adults.

Are you ready for the ride because I ride in style. Bougie? Eh, call it what you want. I call it CONFIDENCE.